Patience. Whew. Not something I have historically had a lot of. However, time, age, marriage, and building my business has taught me a LOT about this topic.
But patience is not just about business. Patience is applicable in every facet of life. What might you be wishing to accomplish or struggling with today? Maybe it’s a personal project like losing weight or gaining health. Or raising children. Maybe it’s a business goal. Maybe it’s simply not hurting somebody that annoys you (haha). Maybe a home renovation (hint: call me before you start).
When you step back and assess any of the above or other, could it be that patience is required? More than likely. But great things take time.
And because great things take time, don’t believe that the ability to quietly give it the time needed is a sign of weakness or otherwise. Patience is not passivity. It is an active state in which to allow yourself time to make your move. More often than not, forcing an issue before it is time is a sure way to NOT get the best – or even a good – result.
Patience is not something we are generally born with, but rather is a skill to be developed. While frustration WILL happen, learning to deal with the frustration (patiently) is a coping skill that will provide an amazing emotional freedom.
This is a direct excerpt from and article in Psychology Today written by Judith Orloff, M.D. She is the author of the book Emotional Freedom.
Emotional Action Step. Practice Patience In A Long Line
To turn the tables on frustration, find a long, slow-moving line to wait in. Perhaps in the grocery store, bank, post office. Or if you’re renewing your driver’s license, dare to take on the mother of all lines in the DMV. But here’s the switch: Instead of getting irritated or pushy, which taxes your system with a rush of stress hormones, take a breath. Tell yourself, “I’m going to wait peacefully and enjoy the pause.” Meanwhile, try to empathize with the overwrought cashier or government employee. Smile and say a few nice words to the other beleaguered people in line. Use the time to daydream; take a vacation from work or other obligations. Notice the stress release you feel, how your body relaxes. Lines are an excellent testing ground for patience. To strengthen this asset, I highly recommend standing in as many as possible.
Practicing patience will help you dissipate stress and give you a choice about how you respond to disappointment and frustration. When you can stay calm, centered and not act rashly out of frustration, all areas of your life will improve.
I can personally attest to the above practice. It is something I have become adept at and it has definitely translated positively into most areas of my life where patience is required. Give this a try, and keep doing it. I’d love to hear back from you and your results!