Well, hello there! It’s been over a year – maybe two? (yikes!) – since I was posting my Monday Motivation blog series. Somebody advised me that this motivation thing was not in my design wheelhouse and was confusing or irrelevant for a design blog, and I was not feeling particular motivated, so I just let it fall away. But I have personally really missed these weekly posts of positivity and am going to be a “rebel” and pick up the practice again. If it confuses you that I’m a motivated, positive interior designer, then I’m sorry. I believe you create the life you want and “Living By Design” is something I’m passionate about. Let’s get on with it:
Starting with Timing. I personally want it all, and I want it right now. Who doesn’t? Right?
We are all rushing about thinking everything needs to get done right now. We have drive thru meals, dry cleaning, coffee, banking, heck, even some drive thru liquor stores still exist. And if you can’t drive up and get it, you can order it online and get it delivered tomorrow (Amazon Prime) – or even today (Prime Now), depending on what it is you’re wanting. We are so used to being able to just “drive up” or “log on” and get what we want, the art of waiting has gone wayside.
Waiting is not easy because we feel like we might be missing out on something. And who wants to miss out on something awesome? But what if we rush our life and rush into something not so awesome because it wasn’t our time? I waited 37 years to get married, and let me tell you that sometimes that felt like FOR-EV-ER! And lordy lordy did I make some whopper mistakes while dating because I was rushing to get married because that is what I thought I was “supposed” to be doing. My point is, however, that if we move too fast, we are bound to miss some important experiences and lessons in our life…and also in our business, our families, and friends.
Moving at the speed of light and “being busy” has become glorified in today’s society. The rushed and the harried are looked at as successful. But really, if you’re too busy to enjoy your blessings because you’re rushing to get to the next big thing, what good are the blessings you have today?
And if you’re in a season of waiting – or even a season of defeat – because you feel like all you’re doing is waiting, waiting waiting, don’t give up hope. Your life has a schedule. But we get caught up in society’s definition of what is “right” and tell ourselves stories of what “should” and “shouldn’t” be. We create limitations, timelines, roles and definitions for ourselves – and when life doesn’t fall right into place based on these self imposed expectations, we think something is wrong.
I encourage you (and me!) to free yourself from these self imposed and societal stories of what “should” be and revel in the moment. Drop the expectations of when you should be married, when you should be having children, when you should be wearing whatever sized pants, when you should have X amount of money in savings, and so forth. What if you didn’t worry about what other people thought and just trusted the timing of your life? What if you knew that God’s best was exactly where you are right now?
Let us let go of the drive thru mentality as it relates to life. Instead, let’s sit down and enjoy a feast with loved ones, savoring every moment, knowing that you are right where you are supposed to be.
Looking back at my 37 year wait for marriage, it was not easy when so many of my friends were busy getting married and starting families – I thought that was the start of their lives…and I was still waiting. But in hindsight, I was exactly where I was supposed to be. I’m not saying that getting married early is wrong, I’m saying it was wrong for me, even though I did not understand it at the time. I’m saying that God’s timing was perfect. I met the man of my dreams and married HIM at 37 – and am grateful I didn’t have to go through the pain of marrying – unsuccessfully – any of the other
yahoos men I dated. And this stands for every area of our lives when timing is a factor. My business would not be what it is today if I had started it even two years earlier – it is perfectly imperfect today.
What is it that you are waiting for? And could it be that it is just not your time? Are your expectations for the timing based on outside factors? Could you just let go and let it be? I tell myself: “keep working like a boss but believing like a bohemian”. And it works!
Also, because I’m not the world’s most patient person, I have this graphic on my phone as a “favorite” and when I’m feeling a little stressed that whatever things are not happening fast enough, I’ll switch it out to my screensaver and wallpaper. It’s a great reminder. Pin it. Download it. Whatever works best for you. Just remember that you are exactly where you are supposed to be.
Whew. That felt good! Monday Motivation series is BACK. And the timing could not have been better. Right?