My heart hurts. In a world full of angry political ads, seemingly the only news on TV is about the cruel acts of others, and just the lack of compassion overall. I woke up this morning and just wanted to say for Motivation Monday – BE NICE.
My mom used to tell me “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”. And why not? Why not keep our mouth shut if the only thing to come out would be less than nice? Or worse, our words are mean. It’s not difficult to be nice or be quiet. It’s not expensive. It doesn’t physically hurt. So why not?
When was the last time you gave somebody a compliment “just because”? When we were dating, my husband thought I was a little kooky because I talked to everybody. I’d tell the cashier at the grocery store that her nails looked nice, or walking by somebody in the mall, I would tell them they had cool hair, or cool shoes or whatever was cool for real. But you should see the surprise – and then happiness – on a person’s face when they get a random compliment. It’s friggin’ awesome.
You have no idea what is going on in somebody’s life, so sharing a quick smile or compliment can go a long way. Think about how you enjoy being on the receiving end, and turn it around.
I’m not suggesting that you get all soft and drop your boundaries so people take advantage of you.
And you can still be nice AND be angry.
Being nice includes being nice to yourself. Have you listened to the way you talk to yourself? Would you talk to your mother or your best friend that way? (That may be another Monday Motivation post. Words matter. But think about it.)
I can look back at some of the errors I’ve made in life. Quite a few actually. Mostly the guys I dated when I was younger. YIKES. But we won’t go there right now, okay?
In each and every instance, I can look back and not regret being nice in any and all of the instances where I made an error or an error was made against me. Keeping your dignity intact and offering kindness instead of hate is something everybody can afford.
Kindness is not weakness. It’s the opposite. It takes much more strength and resolution to not lash out at somebody when it may be “deserved”. Think about it. How much more difficult is it to keep your lips zipped? Even if you’re not confronting them directly, how you talk about them / the situation with others can also reflect kindness – or the opposite.
Wouldn’t today’s world be so much nicer if we all practices just a little bit of this every day?
Go ahead. I dare YOU.